Don't Play Me!

You know I have a real huge problem when people try to play me for some type of fool. However, in my place of zen and trying to keep from snapping/quirking the hell out I try to find a lesson; even in bullshit. I try not to project my negative energy on anyone. Although, the path to not doing so is often difficult. However when I'm in a space that is not mentally safe I retreat. I do not blame other's for my actions; and I try not to fall to the bait of others who choose to project their shit onto me for whatever reason. So this morning I noticed a former co-worker on Facebook.

It has been over a year since we last hung out and talked. Being the person who is learning to connect I reached out to her. However, I should have known that was a no, no due to the her history and behavior for the untruth. My close friend became a victim of her untruths. Anyway, when I requested "friendship" this is the e-mail she sent me:


I have been okay. To be honest with you I was raped by that guy I took to his house that night. I was really drunk and I was blacking out. I really hope real friends would not have let me drive home like that or take a complete stranger into my car. I know it was not your fault but I am feeling a certain way abt it.Thanks,---------


When I read the first line I was like, whoa!! However, when I kept reading my whoa went to immediate disdain. How can someone harbor these emotions for over a year and now just bring it up? We had several conversations after the night. But quickly my disdain turned to pity with a tinge of sarcasm. I refused to navigate her issue. Being the person and feisty spirit I am, I had to respond. Although, I knew I had to be reserved in my response. Show concern for the alleged event and respond in a way to let her know that I hear you, but I'm not going to be put in a space for blame. With that I replied:

Oh my goodness -------, I am so sorry to read that he raped you. We were all drunk that night to the point that each of us needed a personal designated driver. I’m sorry to read that he violated you, especially since you were so kind enough to volunteer and give him a ride home after you found out that he didn’t live that far from you. I hope that he was/is punished to the fullest extent of the law and that you find peace and closure within yourself.
Best Regards, Me

I might not have responded in a way that she thinks I should have responded, however I made it an issue to respond and take responsibility for a response that I own and puts me in a safe place mentally. It has been several days since I've sent her my response; and of course she hasn't responded me back, which suits my just fine.